Everyone knows the logical steps of relationships.
You go on a few dates.
You decide you really like the person.
You bump uglies and decide to be exclusive. (Unless the sex is bad…then you’re probably still looking around)
You fall in love.
You meet each other’s families.
You move in together.
You get engaged.
You buy some rings.
You will hopefully live happily ever after.
…but let’s be real…only 48% of us get the happy ending. The majority of us end up in a messy divorce riddled with anxiety, depression, and the everlasting stamp of failure.
So my questions is…how do you know you’re ready for each step? I think I missed the memo on how to not freak out but continue moving forward with someone.
The Electrician and I have been dating for almost a year now. Time has been flying past me at the speed of light. About three months into our relationship we had a huge fight during which I was convinced it would end us and I’d be back on the dating scene providing you all with stories of disgust or horror once again. However, it turns out in grown-up relationships fighting is often needed because two people are sometimes not on the same wavelengths so early on. Our next big rumble came about five months in when I decided to have a drink with an old flame that had burned out over a year ago. JBlondie has learned that while trust can be given at the beginning, I must never take it for granted.
Ahhhh relationships. Love is easy. It’s the learning and growing for the better that provides turns, twists, and roadblocks along our way.
At this point with The Electrician I am pretty sure he’s not my soulmate. However, I truly believe Ben is in my life for a reason. Ben makes me a better person. He challenges me to want more for myself but accepts all of my wobbly-bits and sticky parts for what they are.
“You’re the exception to the rule,” he’ll often say smiling.
Yes. Love can be fantastic. …and then other times I get so angry I have the urge to key his car. I should probably work on that.
But back to the subject, how do we know when it’s the right time? Is it just natural? Is the fact that I miss him when I’m not around him a sign it’s time to give him a key to my apartment? A part of me still doesn’t trust him which has nothing to do with anything HE has done. It’s my level of faith for humanity in general. Since I live with my bestie Kristyn I certainly don’t want to have anything similar to the Catfish incident reoccurring. Once again I must put my trust in someone. I have to hope that Ben is what he appears to be. I have to believe he is as honest and as good natured as he portrays. It’s scary though…out here…putting everything on the line.
What are your thoughts World of WordPress? When are YOU ready for the next step?